Tuesday, 5 September 2017

AGONY OF A LOVER BOY




AGONY OF A LOVER BOY

Why do I always have to be a victim of love?
Why do I always feel that I have a problem to solve?
Could it be that only with the wrong people I choose to get involved?
Maybe it is high time I looked inward.

Again it ended up this way.
I found love and ended up throwing it away.
I found happiness but gradually it slipped away.
I felt complete not knowing that that feeling will soon ebb away.

Yes I strayed but for forgiveness I prayed.
Of losing her, I became so afraid only for me to end up feeling betrayed.
Chai! Feelings are fucked, love sucks but why do I still feel stucked?

I cried and sobbed because of her,
I tried and talked the sweetest lines to keep her,
but I guess the damage had been done far beyond any hope of repair.
So after many call dials and trials, I decided to give up on her, 
while I keep on comforting myself that que cera cera.


Pricelex @Ogunleyeakinola01

Tuesday, 29 August 2017

IMPOSSIBLE




IMPOSSIBLE


Unbelievable is what you heard,
unimaginable is what she said,
Like poison-laden arrows
Her words dart into your ears
Heading straight for your fragile heart
Awakening once buried fears
Taking it in your stride
You hold back welled up tears.
The picturesque bliss up in your head,
An idyllic future now set aflame.

Everything you've been doing right,
At least, so you thought,
All of a sudden now wrong,
Hurtful words connected as one,
Leaving you numb and enervated
The melody of a sad song.
She says you are undatable, too available
Yet, still irreplaceable,
Is that even possible?

She wants you to stay,
To never go away,
She wants you for keeps
But not in the right way
Not there when she sleeps
But to listen to her whinings,
and watch salty teardrops
Meander down her silken cheeks.
To heighten her hopes when they dip
Assuring her all would be fixed.
She wants you to be there for her
but not here with her.
Again, is that possible?

You want to do more
She knows you can give more
Still she doesn't let you.
She wants a bite but not to chew
More is good but she wants few.
Exactly what she wants,
You have not a clue.


Ayodele, @itz_aweezil

Tuesday, 4 July 2017

Hell Found Me






Hell found me

In the tiny pieces of broken window panes,
as my knuckles bled, I felt equal pain.

In the worthlessness that was the aftermath for me
while you did your fly.

In the warm slimy liquid trickling down my inner thighs
from your forced entry, my natural wall caving in.

In the muffled sounds and silent screams I could only manage
as I felt my virtue leave me.

In the scars etched on my skin when your "ginormous" hands
tore through my clothes.

In my innocence as I happily downed the laced drink
that weakened my defenses.

In the "trustingness" of parents who took you in
and made me call you uncle.

In society's noncommittal to my plight and that of many like me.

Hell found me in my naive, vulnerable self
Now my dignity is ablaze.

Ayodele, @itz_aweezil





Friday, 5 May 2017

LOVE IS MASTER



Why is it so hard?

To not want to want it

Something of which I once thought

“Oh, a fad gone bad!”

Now the subject of my every thought

And me the object of its every whim

So much pressure exerted by it

I really wished I could scream.

Call for much needed help

Or go back in time

To when I cared less

When I felt for those at its mercy

People living caged lives

Lives in a mess.

To when I had the freedom

Which by some was perceived as lacklustre

Freedom to mingle,

And with an unapologetic air of confidence

Proudly say I was single.

To when I owned my life, had a say

A time when love did not hold sway.


                                                                                                Ayodele, @itz_aweezil

Tuesday, 18 April 2017

TAKING RISKS





The age between 20 and 30 or even 40 is usually a bit difficult for most of us in this part of the world, especially if your parents are not one of the elites with excess money at their disposal. Reality begins to set in, you begin to question yourself, your ambitions, your parents, if you go far enough you question your God. But it's also the period you should make all the mistakes you did not make as a teenager, take all the business risks you can think of. Fail and fall as many times as you can. Sometimes do the things everyone believes you are going to fail at. Go all out do your best, make sure you put in your all and if you fail well try again. It's nice to fail because there is always a lesson to learn from your failure.
When the world sees it as failure you should see it as a lesson. You will fail, it's almost inevitable. People will look down on you, get used to it. You will lose. You will suck at something. You will be embarrassed. Hell! You will even embarrass yourself. But it's cool it's okay. It means you're on the right path. Never let their opinion define you. Only one person should define you and that's you. Not any other person. Not your friend, family, colleagues, peers, not even your mentor should define you. You're the only one that should have that power.
They say the cemetery is where you have most dreams buried. But I think fear is the number one thing that buried most dreams. Fear of failing. Fear of what people will say when I fail. Fear of how people will look at me or what people will say about me. So most of us just live the normal life, follow the normal routine everyone follows and remain normal.
Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with being normal. But there is definitely something wrong with not fulfilling your potential. So go all out and take as many risks as you can, if you fail you go again. One good thing about taking these risks at this stage of your life is when you fail, you still have a cushion to fall back on and your default response is 'try again'. Eventually you will succeed.
We have to accept that we are going to fail at some point in life. But it's better to fail and fail and fail and fail and fail until you succeed. Whatever you do, just don't quit. The moment you quit then everything would have been all for nothing. You see that light bulb over your head, i heard this guy Thomas Edison performed 1000 experiments and still he didn't quit. He got it right at the 1001 experiment. So tell me, how many times have you tried? Definitely not up to a thousand times. So keep going.
If you fall and give up. Do you think you're ever going to get up? No! Never for one moment think it's the end of your life.
But if you try again and again and again until you get up. Then you've given yourself a chance to succeed again.
At your old age when you look back and recount how your life panned out, it's either you hiss and regret all the things you could have done or you smile feeling satisfied and say you gave it your best shot. So at the end of your life when you eventually drop the mic, however it turns out you can always look back and smile, telling yourself you couldn't have done it better.

Tuesday, 28 February 2017

Suspicion



You felt you’d done enough 
You thought you earned their trust
You scaled every hurdle
Still all effort was lost
From peering eyes 
To whispering talk
From heaves and sighs 
To stern looks and diffusing rumours.
“Is this it?”  You wonder
“The once revered golden boy 
By murmurings has been dissected 
And like the parts of a rejected toy
His honour dismembered.”
You decipher not the essence
Work yourself to ground 
Just for a good name
Only for people around 
To make slighting remarks, defaming comments
Point-shaped arrows 
That thanks to God
Hit your shield of self-assuredness.
Your bulwark of self confidence
In your moral innocence.



By Ayodele Alle


Saturday, 4 February 2017

Dilemma




Love or the lack of it
Either ways you’re miserable
Feelings of volatile fulfilment
Or of success not complete.
Persistently dynamic
Creating chasm-like voids
In the wake of spasm-like pain
Pain unrelenting
Like constant whips of cane.
In the end, it’s pointless;
Subject yourself to avoidable torture
Wriggle out, if you can
Then conceal your wounds
Stitches and sutures.
Or you could feign strength, Invent power
Build a hedge
With you atop it’s tower
Love knocks, you refuse to budge
Looking down at it, you shiver
Current in a surge
Stubbornly still, all emotions you shut
All for fear of “not getting hurt”
Knowing it’s this or celibacy
You choose the former
Hoping on your Maker
For Happily Ever After.



By Ayodelle Alle

Friday, 16 September 2016

My Lady



First time?
From a distance
Picking each step
Not wanting to hit a stone
Figured so shapely
Kim Kardashian's clone
And that was it
When I picture her now?
Definitely not on "white and white"
But on clothes so tight
They accentuate her edges
With some killer shoes to go with,
Stilettos and wedges.


So beautiful,
She could make ice thaw
Yes, a dame to kill for.
Bereft of negativity
She laughs with her friends
This side of her
I came to know
Since then, for us
it's been raining snow.
She now shares in my tears
Helping me find my way
And allay my fears.


Crazy texter she is
Yet soft over the phone
Oh! Her voicenotes
Like ice cream in a cone
Her "pidgin" sounds forced
"Ajebo", I tease
Deep down she's all but that.
She can talk for Africa
Amebo like that.
Thanks to NYSC, Eunice and Red cross
Our paths may never have crossed.
Using this ink as a medium
A platform, a podium
To let you know
You deserve all the good
That life's got to show.


Dedicated to Temiloluwa Olasehinde


By Alle Odhiameh Ayodele

Sunday, 4 September 2016

Dirge for my Earphones

 
You were my passport to solitude
Created a place of fortitude
Where I could smile, feel pain
A place where people not there
Made me sane.
 
In ur obvious absence, I brood
Remembering how with u
I needed no food.
Holding faintly to the hope of ur return
Like the uncertainty of a lunar eclipse
When the clouds turn.
 
This I pray, this I say:
Whoever finds u
Should fathom ur value
Extol ur virtues
Know ur worth
And like a little child
By u be taught.
Keeping u safer than I ever did.
Cos for u I'll forever feel a need.
 
 
By Alle Odhiameh Ayodele

Wednesday, 11 May 2016

COMMUNICATION I



Simply put, communication is a means of exchanging information between people. Be it in your relationship, within your family, at your place of work or among business acquaintances, and sometimes even within yourself, you basically live and breathe by communicating. One way or the other you communicate with people every day. But communication is not just about talking (verbal) and listening, it goes beyond that, it also involves other non-verbal language like hand gestures and general body language. The biggest challenge in communicating is to make sure that the message received is also the message intended. Therefore the essence of good communication skills cannot be over emphasized.

Sometimes while trying to pass a message across we say one thing but our body language says another and unfortunately people tend to focus on the body language than the verbal so it’s important that our body language is in tune with what we are trying to say so as to give a perfect picture of the message because real communication is the message received not the message intended.

To master the art of communication, information needs to be exchanged correctly and this simply involves speaking and listening. Let’s highlight some of the key points below;

SPEAKING
·         Positive speaking
·         Skilled communicator
·         Give good information
·         Cooperative communication
·         Body language

LISTENING
·         Ask questions
·         Active listening
·         Effective listening
·         Don’t assume
·         Align speaker’s body language with message

SPEAKING

Positive speaking is a basic rule if you want to live a positive life, or you need favours, it can also come in handy if you’re attending an interview. Basically the following qualities should be a part of you.
Be cheerful and greet people politely.
Smile while you are at it, everyone loves a smile and it’s free. People who smile are happier than those who don’t. Smiling releases a chemical in your brain that makes you feel good. It’s a great way to establish rapport with your listeners.
Try to call people by their first name, always sounds nice when someone calls your name.
Be friendly and helpful, to make a friend you have to be a friend.
Be cordial and do things with genuine pleasure.
Be generous with praise and cautious with criticism.
Be genuinely interested in people, you can like almost anybody if you try.
Be considerate with the feelings of others.
Be available to give service, what counts most in life is what we do for others.
If you can add a good sense of humour, a big dose of patience, and some humility then you are on your way.

Skilled communicator – The way you communicate with others and with yourself ultimately determines the quality of your life. It takes a skilled communicator to pass a message across perfectly and also receive the message that’s been passed across. A skilled communicator has sound communication skills in areas like; listening, speaking and writing, reading, observing, assertiveness, reproducing effectively and aligning non-verbal signs with the message passed across.

Giving good information – This simply involves being clear, concise, correct, courteous, and concrete. In order to give good information, the message should not be ambiguous, endeavour to be as clear as possible and make sure you keep the message not only correct but also short and simple. Sometimes when you talk too much, the message is lost. The first ingredient in a conversation is truth, if the conversation lacks truth then you are starting on the wrong note and that communication has a shaky foundation. When you have nothing to say, be silent, whatever you say should be better than silence.


Cooperative communication tries not to sound pushy, instead of ordering people around make a request. Avoid saying “you will have to go there tomorrow” instead say “could you or would you be able to go there tomorrow”. Focus on solutions not problems, replace “you failed again” with “how do we ensure you don’t fail again”. Turn “can’t”s into “can”s. Simply put, be positive.

Body language is a means of non-verbal communication which is a process of sending and receiving wordless messages. It can be expressed consciously or unconsciously in the presence of the receiver who also interprets it consciously or unconsciously. Sometimes it is not what you say that matters but how you say it; action they say speaks louder than words. All of our non-verbal behaviours send strong messages; the gestures we make, the way we sit, how fast or how loud we talk, how close we stand, how much eye contact we make.
The ability to understand and use non-verbal communication is a powerful tool that will help you; connect with others, express what you really mean, navigate challenging situations, build better relationships at home and work. The non-verbal signals you send can produce a sense of interest, trust and desire for connection or they generate disinterest, distrust and confusion. It all boils down to your body language. When the verbal and non-verbal language disagrees, it’s just natural people will believe the non-verbal.
Body language combined with vocal tone can override or even cancel the meaning of the words we say. Once again make sure your mouth and your body are sending the same signal. Individual gestures can indicate more than one thing (crossed arms can indicate anger, being cold or insecurity).

Body language tips
Eye contact helps you carry your message to each person in the audience. It builds trust.
Hand gestures. Learn to speak with your hands. Draw lines in the air, make a point, count on your fingers, and emphasize length and width.
Work on appearing sincere and comfortable.
Let your hands do what they want to do, as long as they don’t get in your pockets, fiddle with an object, or make obscene gestures to your audience.

Your body posture affects your emotions and how you feel determines your posture. If you are confident, happy and ready, your body will show it.




...to be continued